Looking for the title of a novel I read a few years ago. I actually remember big parts of the story, but still could not find it using tags, so maybe it's not translated and I could've MTL'ed back then. The protagonist comes back to his hometown from military service and saves a ger who tried to commit suicide by drowning on the bridge at the village entrance. He is transmigrated, so of course he uses first aid skills and is immediately accused of kissing a ger that is about to be married, so he needs to pay for the bride price and take the boy home. The boy was about to be sold by his family that hates him to a man who has already tortured multiple spouses to death. The protagonists family is also chaotic, he was sent to military service as a boy (and that seems to be the time when he transmigrated) and now, after becoming a general and defeating the barbarians but giving all credit to the prince he retired and went home to take back his land that was taken from him. Insert cute slice of life between a ger that thought he would be tortured to death and a modern man with ample life experience . Until rumors of war start and an imperial decree comes down from the previously-prince-now-emperor he worked for, revealing to all villagers that he is actually a great general. He has to go to war again, leaving his husband and kids at home. Ending is sweet again, they go north to guard the border. His older kid, a ger, is wild and does martial arts and chooses his own husband, the other kid, a son, does too, I think both choices were controversial, one was a foreigner or something and the other was a man instead of a ger? But the protagonist just shrugged and was like "go live your life". The (happy) end. Please help!
I looked at that, and it's not it. I'm also very sure that there was no system and it was also not qt/world hopping. It was written from the gong point of view and should be the typical length if 100-200 chapters.
I tried looking for this a few times because I also wanted to read it but can't find an exact match This is the closest I found that has returning from battle, saving from drowning, and returning to fight in war later on. 夫郎是个娇气包 By 岛里天下 Hoping someone can find it eventually