One sided love

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  1. Issis

    Issis 'Feeling is a Gift and a Curse'

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    https://www.instagram.com/reel/CzcQ81Gv3pg/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

    https://www.instagram.com/reel/CzdaQc1LHnO/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

    So they are talking about how it would've been if they were in a relationship...? Means that the guy likes her but the girl didn't love him back the same way, she just thought of him as a friend. So in starting she says if they had dated he would've done so, and later what she says is what their relationship would've been like if they had dated. So this means they are not in a relationship! Because it would've been unfair to the guy! Right?!
    Anyway it was beautiful when i first saw it but then i saw the comments, many were saying relatable and sad and beautiful and some telling that it did not went well when they tried being in a relationship with someone who didn't love them like they did, some regretted, some didn't and some were saying girl was a bitch.

    So if you knowingly get into a relationship with someone who doesn't love u the same, and later u find out it's not the same as u imagined is it right to blame the other person? Actually i've seen these kind of situations a lot in novels too, like the ml(mostly) said that u r a substitute i don't love u, i'm with u only because my family wanted to see me with someone or he had white moonlight or something. And the mc decided to get into a fake-relationship with him after knowing all that. But later he falls in love with ml and ml is still cold or not interested and the comments blame him. It becomes annoying. I read comments because some are really interesting, they make reading more fun but some just ruin the mood.
    Ahhhh i ranted so much haha
     
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  2. livorino

    livorino Well-Known Member

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    That's why communication is important.
     
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  3. Anra7777

    Anra7777 All powerful magic grammar hamster queen pirate.

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    Hmm… I never dated up through college because no one was interested in dating me. (I did have a “boyfriend” in fifth grade, but all we did was hold hands and hug, and I’m not sure that counts.) When I started dating, it was all people I met over the internet and the first few dates were “getting to know you” ones. I spent years doing that. My longest relationship up until Mr. Hamster was only a few months, I think.

    When I met Mr. Hamster, he fell in love first. I did not fall for him for a while. I actually agonized quite a bit about our feelings being so unequal and whether it was fair to him. But eventually I did fall in love. I don’t remember exactly when, but by the time we’d been together a year, I was definitely head over heels.

    That is to say, people’s feelings can change. It’s possible that once they started dating, her feelings would change. But they might not.
     
  4. hypersniper159

    hypersniper159 101% Introvert

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    never in a romantic sense, bu i value friends and friendship way more than any one of my friend(s) do. I am fine with it, but it really hurts thinking that in a year or two, we wont be friends, and they'll never talk to me again,
     
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    GreenLake Well-Known Member

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    If I admire someone and know that they can never feel the same for me, I wouldn't mind. Because I am fine with just seeing that person happy. However, it becomes an entirely different story when that person starts using me because of my admiration. If they use me as substitute and only exploit my affection, then I would rather just die alone.
     
  6. Nia2760

    Nia2760 ・❥・ꏂꂵꉣꋪꏂꇙꇙ ꄲꊰ ꉔꋬ꓄ꇙ ・❥・

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    I feel like sometimes that person is just isn't right for you like I don't think I will be able to see my guy friends like that I value friendship over romantic relationship
     
  7. Bad Storm

    Bad Storm You said, "I don't understand,"

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    I dunno. I think you deserve a person who will want and love you for you. It just feels strange to me spending your time pining for someone instead of looking for your own happiness.

    Maybe they're not interested in you. Maybe they aren't interested in dating itself. Maybe they will fall for you even when they said they didn't like you that way. But that's so many maybe's.
    Maybe I'm naive, but when someone loves you, there shouldn't be doubt in there.
     
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    Esha07 ☄your favorite meanie࿐ྂ

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    Tada~