Most of the Female Lead stories tend to just ends in "Oh no, I realized I loved the Male Lead. Let's marry and have sex in the sunset." Why there's no Female Lead who's actually using their own Xianxia power to reduce the enemies and male lead into hardcore masochist that only loyal to Female Lead?
there are only few novel that were translated like that, one of this is the Cultivating to Become a Great Celestial. The female MC starts of being weak to stronger. So far the male lead here haven't appear yet. I also recommend My Disciple Died Yet Again, this is also good story where the romance is only a subplot.
For sure there are Female Lead fantasy novel Miracle Doctor, Abandoned Daughter: The Sly Emperor’s Wild Beast-Tamer Empress Quick Transmigration: Male Lead, You’re Overpowered? Both these two are female lead you may love
Crossing to the future it’s not easy to be a man. The female protagonist(disguised as male) uses her OP skillz to make the ML become gay and yandere for her. Very late in the novel though, and the ML is more a supporting character than someone on her level.