But the difference between ever settle in irl or not make big difference. I didnt rejecting love in my both experience about this LDR stuff even now tbh (due both of us circumtances) . When you settle with someone irl you will see how that person reaction about you, how the attitude, etc. If you sensitive person like me, you would know what kind of person that you met on several meeting. This kind of thing will ease that feels a lot better, than you never settle irl. Moreover if both you have dream to achieve first.
that's contradictory. i know i can spend a lifetime with them, but i can't settle with them? that'd mean i cant spend a lifetime with them in the first place. that'd make it a fun but not-serious kind of relationship, y'know, kinda like friends with benefits. of course not, you'll never know how a person truly is until you've actually met and interacted with them face-to-face. how can i be sure of my feelings then? if i simply like that person and go so far as thinking i'd want to spend my lifetime with him/her although i don't know this person's true nature, that'd make my infatuation juvenile. it's like a vapid crush. the nuances in reality cannot be translated in a virtual space. you want a relationship with depth, you get to know that person. but of course if there's red flags after you get to know that person you should gtfo asap.
what I really want to say is.. Online dating without a plan to make it a reality is like a burning wound that you keep ignoring.. But deep inside, you know it's painful and you want it to end it eventually... Also, reality is such a cruel word, no matter how much you guys want to keep this fake relationship, time and time again, reality will keep knocking into your door and separate you two..
I did that on my first love and i did regret that kind of positivity. Probably because i got ptsd from that.
Can you really ever know a person's true nature? They say, you can't really predict what a person will do even when you've already spent ten years under the same roof.
escaping reality is temporary, we still need to feed and keep our present real life working, no matter how sweet and tempting it is to live in virtual, our hunger and need for necessity will keep us from living in this dream.
Believe me, sweet words can't feed your belly.. Unless you're a famous singer or working in a call center.
but that's the thing, and that's the thing. if you're hungry and have no clothes on your back, you won't have time for love and companionship. you'd seek to fulfil basic needs first and foremost. you might have a person you like, sure, but he/she sure won't be the thing in your mind if you're starving or homeless. maslow's hierarchy of needs, and all. but i am a realist and a pragmatist. i see you're a very optimistic person who believes in the purity of dreams, that's good for you. keep on loving~