Only Sense Online will be the closest match according to VRMMO ossan story plot Deathmarch also close enough
http://www.novelupdates.com/series/remonster/ http://re-monster.wikia.com/wiki/Day_1-10 MC is a reincarnated goblin, that uses his skills of survival (such as creating weapons and armor from remains of animals) and tactics to take over his tribe and train them into a mercenary group that can influence entire nations. A few 18+ scenes (both gore and sexual interactions including mindbreak and rape). Written in diary or journal format from the MC's perspective. First link is to the group posting chapters on NU. Second link has later chapters translated but the newest chapters are only MTLed.
Are you okay with transported, but it has crafting in it? The GM has logged into a different world Magi Craft Meister
Im okay with transported, just not rebirth...id rather not have the MC talk about sucking his mothers breasts and stuff...
Agreed that Only Sense Online is the closest fit. The gender-bender is played for laughs more than anything else. You forget it after a while. What exactly about VRMMO Ossan do you like? Is it the game elements, the slice-of-life pacing, the levelling-up system, crafting system, or something else? - Invincible Saint Salaryman - The Man Picked Up by the Gods - Atelier Tanaka (slow translation) - I kinda came to another world but where's the way home? - I won 4 billion in a lottery but went to another world - Seiun wo Kakeru (blacksmith in another world)
Then I would avoid Mushoku Tensei since the MC is a pervert otaku reincarnates as a child that "loved" feeding and cuddling time. It was so bad that Spoiler: Mushoku Tensei The maid that took care of the MC as a child, raised her child (and the MC's half-sister) to be the MC's personal maid and to provide those services to him. Needless to say, the adult MC was very put off when he learned about that. However, his half-sister did indeed become his personal maid (even gave up school to be his maid). The MC was the type that enshrined his first teacher's panties as a goddess idol as a 5 year old. Kept them till adulthood when Spoiler: Bigger Spoiler he married the teacher since see is an eternal loli. Also I just remembered http://www.novelupdates.com/series/seiun-wo-kakeru/ Modern day blacksmith MC is transported to a low tech level village. Gains a place in the village as he uses his blacksmithing skills and modern knowledge to help develop the village and advance tech levels of the surrounding area. No OP or cheats, just normal people doing normal things.